How to Support a Friend or Colleague Who’s Going Through Job Uncertainty

A dear friend of mine was recently laid off after almost ten years at the same organization.  Ten years of dedication, long days, deep relationships, and mission-driven work.

It hit me hard. Not just because I care about him, but because it reminded me how many people in our sector are living with a quiet (or not-so-quiet) fear of losing their jobs. Others have already been laid off. Some are stuck in uncertainty—will there be funding next year? Is my department safe? Should I be looking elsewhere?

In moments like this, it’s natural to want to help. But it’s not always clear how. So, here’s a guide to showing up for people in your community—whether they’ve lost their job or are simply afraid they might. I have learned some of these the hard way and certainly wish I had them all in mind when I found out about my dear friend.

1. Acknowledge the Moment—Don’t Rush to Fix It

When someone shares that they’ve been laid off, our instinct is often to help them “solve” the situation right away: Start applying. Update your resume. Stay positive.

But what they need first—especially in those early days—is simply someone to see them.

It’s okay to say, “I’m really sorry this happened,” or “That’s so hard. I’m here if you want to talk.” It’s not helpful to say, “Everything happens for a reason,” or “You’ll be fine.” Even if well-intentioned, it skips over the very real emotional weight of what they’re going through.

Give them grace. Let them process the shock, the grief, the disorientation. Be a steady presence—not a problem-solver.

2. Open Up Your Network

You don’t have to find them a job—but you can open some doors.

Reach out to a few people in your network and offer warm introductions. Maybe it’s someone in a similar role at another organization, a recruiter, a consultant, or a colleague who’s navigated a similar transition.

Even informal conversations—coffee chats, phone calls, LinkedIn intros—can help your friend feel connected, seen, and back in motion.

You can say: “Would it be helpful if I introduced you to a few folks in my network?” or “I don’t know of an open role right now, but I know someone who might have ideas—want me to connect you?”

Someone may even approach you to have a quick coffee chat – in that case, take the time and be open to being a network for a person you may not know. Sometimes, the right conversation at the right time can make all the difference.

3. Be a Practical Supporter—If They’re Ready

When they feel ready, offer to review their resume, help them draft a cover letter, or run through a practice interview. Especially for folks who haven’t job searched in a long time, the process can feel overwhelming and unfamiliar.

Ask before diving in: “Would it be helpful if I looked over your resume?” or “Want to run a mock interview together next week?”

This isn’t about being an expert in hiring—it’s about being a thoughtful support system as they navigate something new and uncomfortable.

4. Check In Without Pressure

Support shouldn’t fade after the first few days. People often get an initial wave of check-ins—and then silence.

Set a reminder to follow up two weeks later. Then again, a month later. A simple “How are you doing?” or “Thinking of you” shows that you’re still in their corner.

Importantly, don’t make every check-in about whether they’ve found a job. Make it about them.

5. Remind Them of Their Value—Genuinely

Job loss can chip away at someone’s sense of identity and worth, especially in mission-driven work where people are deeply tied to their role and impact.

This is where your words can really matter.

Tell them what you admire. Reflect back what they’ve contributed. Be specific: “You’ve always been the one who could keep people calm in a crisis.” or “Your work on that project changed the way we do things—don’t forget that.”

Remind them: their value was never just tied to their job title.

In Closing: Lead With Community

If you’re feeling helpless watching people around you lose jobs, you’re not alone. But showing up with care, intention, and steady support is something you can do—and it makes a difference.

The nonprofit sector thrives on relationships. In times of uncertainty, the most meaningful thing we can offer each other is connection.

So, if someone in your orbit is going through it right now, reach out. Be the person who shows up—not with all the answers, but with genuine care.

That’s the kind of leadership our community needs most.

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